mental health

On quitting social media

Wednesday, 11 October 2017
I quit social media

I deleted my Twitter and my Instagram accounts. Poof. All my “hard worked for” followers gone. I definitely “miss” some people but I just couldn’t do it anymore. I spent too much time venting about random stuff on Twitter, editing photos, posting photos, advertising things for free, refreshing for likes, refreshing for comments, replying to comments, and so on and so on.

You can say that social media is “just for fun” and like I said, I do miss some people and interacting with them, but I have a lot of things going on in Real Life and social media was sucking up too much of my energy.  Also, my attention span was getting shorter and shorter and my refreshing addiction was getting out of control.

You know the addiction is bad when you delete Twitter and Instagram but then want to start refreshing Strava every 5 minutes!

I went through a long phase of feeling like I HAD to be on social media because social media was full of stick-skinny fitspos who take photos of their butts from various angles but can’t actually run very far or lift anything very heavy. I felt like I HAD to bring some balance to the health & fitness scene on Instagram.

I also felt like I HAD to talk about mental health issues because of the Stigma and everything.

But there is a but.

I’ve come to the point in my life where I don’t want to do any of this stuff for now. I’m busy as is. All this time spent on social media brings in no money for me and only a tiny bit of fun (because like I said, some people I’ve “met” through social media are great) but it also brings me a whole lot of anxiety due to time lost, due to feeling totally addicted to checking social media all.the.time, due to seeing how much shit is out there being bombarded in direction of young women (see above re fitspos).

I have “lived online” for a long time. I made my first website in 1999 and I started blogging 12 years ago. Back then bloggers’ attention spans were a lot longer. Posts were written, posts were commented on. There was no sharing of everything on a gazillion platforms and “promoting” each post a million different ways and scheduling Tweets or Instagram posts, buying Instagram followers or likes, scheduling automatically liking posts (without even looking at them with your own human eyes!).

So I’m going to keep on just blogging. Back to how it was.

Writing is a therapeutic experience for me, social media is not.

Social media is especially bad for someone who is susceptible to getting addicted to repetitive self-soothing activities (such as constantly refreshing Instagram). I’m addicted to plenty of things already, some don’t harm me (exercise), but some do (not a story for this post) and the social media addiction has definitely started to harm my brain so I’m out.

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2 Comments

  • Reply Kaie Friday, 13 October 2017 at 14:01

    Oh, I will miss you at Instagram. You were my social media idol! But same time totally understand, what a time waster and how addictive it is. My house would be much tidier, if Instagram wouldn’t exist :)

  • Reply Tikker Thursday, 12 October 2017 at 06:41

    That’s why I’ve never had Twitter or Instagram. Well, I’ve always had a tendency to write too long blog posts so I’ve never even considered joining Twitter nor missed being a part of it… But I’ve thought about joining Instagram more than a couple of times. Not for sharing purposes so much, mostly for following – as I know several people I really like and enjoy seeing what they are up to who are more active on Instagram than in their blogs (well, you used to be one of them :)).

    But yeah… Life is busy as it is so I’ve never really joined. I’ve also never had FB page for my blog, I’ve never even shared any posts through my regular FB account – well that is mostly due to the fact I prefer some anonymity :) I don’t share my posts anywhere. Who wants to read, will read anyway.

    I even have problems sharing my photos in two places – if I have posted something in my blog I usually end up not doing it in FB and vice versa. It seems like unnecessary doubling though audiences are mostly different… Some photos I do share in both places, depending if they are good enough and I feel vain enough :P

    And I even get irritated scrolling through my FB feed – it seems there used to be a lot more interesting content and now I’m just wasting way too much time trying to keep an eye on way too little amount of interesting things going on in my friends’ and acquaintances’ lives. I’ve never really considered quitting FB as I use it for work as well. I’ve also never liked using FB on my phone and I very rarely feel the need to constantly refresh it (but it does happen sometimes if I’m in especially vain mood and have posted a new picture or sth like that). I rarely use FB to share random thoughts and snippets of life, I have blog and friends for that. But FB is more useful when it comes to some practical topics – when I needed a second hand wall clock or travelling related advice for example. I usually only scroll through FB feed 2-3 times a day when I’ve finished with blogs and have time to kill… And STILL I feel it takes too much time that would be better spent doing other more useful things. So far I’m still scrolling – FOMO I guess :)

    But I REALLY love blogging – writing stuff “out” and following other people’s lives. It’s like having so many great friends I’ve never met and I genuinely enjoy being remote part of their lives. Sure it comes with a price – such as getting your private life pulled in a scandal as some people just don’t find it necessary to think about other people’s feelings… But oh well, ignoring such bullies has worked so far so I’ll keep going – just focusing on people and stuff I really like and enjoy.

    If I had to choose between quitting blogging or FB it would not be a hard choice for me :P Fortunately I don’t have to as FB still does come in handy quite often :)

    Anyway, too long ramble as usual. I’m happy you made that decision, I’m sure you’ll get used to not constantly refreshing things soon enough and will hopefully have more free time for blogging. I don’t mind sports, but would enjoy reading more about your everyday life :)

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