being a woman

Accepting nice words

Tuesday, 7 June 2016

Last week I posted this video on Instagram and FB:

A friend of mine on FB commented by saying “You so strong.” My finger hit the reply button and I was about to type “But did you see how much I drop my elbows at the start of my jerk??”

But I didn’t type it.

I just hit “like” on her comment.

Why?

You probably know how this works. Somebody says that you have a nice dress. You say “Oh, this? Just something I’ve had for ages.”

Or somebody says you run fast and you say “Well, I guess for my AGE.”

Or somebody says you inpire them or are a good mother or are doing a great job at work and you start listing all your faults…

Why do we do this? Women especially. Why do we feel like we never actually deserve any praise?

Is it because we’re raised to be humble and not full of ourselves and somehow just saying “Thank you” shows you’re a vain & heartless b*tch??

It’s not true. In case you didn’t know ;)

It’s nice and polite and totally socially acceptable to just say thanks and NOT continue with a “but”.

"Great socks!" "Oh these are just my old running ones."

“Great socks!”
“Oh these are just my old running ones.”
“Thank you!”

If somebody says you look nice there is no need to explain how much coffee you’ve had or make up you have on or how you actually looked much better 10 years ago.

Compliments are just somebody’s reaction to a moment in time, compliments do not need to be backed up by mountains of evidence!

So next time you get a compliment, accept it, the person (hopefully) meant it so just smile (and don’t roll your eyes!) and say “Thank you.”

Nothing more is necessary.

Simples :)

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  • Rebecca Wednesday, 8 June 2016 at 17:05

    Every female needs to read this post! We’re all guilty of pushing a compliment aside and not really embracing it for what it is

  • Ruth Tuesday, 7 June 2016 at 19:54

    I’ve found American’s are very good at giving compliments and accepting them. It’s something we could all improve on – it’s nice to receive a compliment, but also nice to give them too

  • Mary Tuesday, 7 June 2016 at 19:17

    It is very much a female thing to push aside the compliment and focus on the negative. Perhaps we should begin by complimenting ourselves more.

  • Katie G Tuesday, 7 June 2016 at 11:49

    You’ve hit the nail on the head here…
    I always feel startled when people say something nice and instantly chime into a whole list of comments to counteract the kind comment…
    Or I think ‘they can’t possibly think that’..
    I need to change my tune :)

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