Last week I posted this video on Instagram and FB:
Love a good jerk! • This was my max today 55kg. I don’t video myself just to get likes, by the way. Videos are a great way to see where your form is lacking. This video here showed me a few things I need to work on, things I already know but now know I need to really focus on each time. #cleanandjerk #liftlikeagirl
A friend of mine on FB commented by saying “You so strong.” My finger hit the reply button and I was about to type “But did you see how much I drop my elbows at the start of my jerk??”
But I didn’t type it.
I just hit “like” on her comment.
You probably know how this works. Somebody says that you have a nice dress. You say “Oh, this? Just something I’ve had for ages.”
Or somebody says you run fast and you say “Well, I guess for my AGE.”
Or somebody says you inpire them or are a good mother or are doing a great job at work and you start listing all your faults…
Why do we do this? Women especially. Why do we feel like we never actually deserve any praise?
Is it because we’re raised to be humble and not full of ourselves and somehow just saying “Thank you” shows you’re a vain & heartless b*tch??
It’s not true. In case you didn’t know ;)
It’s nice and polite and totally socially acceptable to just say thanks and NOT continue with a “but”.
If somebody says you look nice there is no need to explain how much coffee you’ve had or make up you have on or how you actually looked much better 10 years ago.
Compliments are just somebody’s reaction to a moment in time, compliments do not need to be backed up by mountains of evidence!
So next time you get a compliment, accept it, the person (hopefully) meant it so just smile (and don’t roll your eyes!) and say “Thank you.”
Nothing more is necessary.