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Fake it ’til you make it – Misleading or just a way to focus on the positive?

Wednesday, 23 September 2015

This happened the other day on Instagram:

fakingit

I didn’t take the “You fake it well” as criticism but it made me think about how much we’re all “faking it” – in real life but especially online – and whether it’s a good or a bad thing.

The one context I’m all for faking it is when there are things in our lives that we want to change but we’re lacking the initial motivation or the knowledge of where exactly to start.

You’ve probably heard the saying “Don’t wear the clothes for the job you have, wear the clothes for the job you want to have.” Meaning – fake it ’til you make it.

Same goes for exercise and getting fit – don’t wait for motivation or just to wake up one day and be a sporty person. Schedule your exercise (just remember to only include those types of exercise in your life that are fun for you) and then – Just Do It. Don’t analyse your feelings beforehand. Fake it ’til you make it. Trust me, if you do this for a while, you will wake up one day and realise that fitness is an essential part of your life and not just an unpleasant chore you have to get done every day.

Now the other kind of faking – the pretending that we’re perfect & never struggle with anything in our lives.  Pretending to our friends & family and never talking about anything that might be troubling us, pretending to everyone else by only sharing our top moments on social media & endless #bepositive and #gohardorgohome photos. That kind is not helpful to anyone.

I’ll put my hand up and just spell it out loud and clear – I am not prefect. My Instagram account might leave a different impression but I am moody, I overanalyse everything, I bottle things up because I do not like conflict, my brain chemistry is unstable & my patience runs out very fast from time to time.

I’m not beating myself up over these facts though. We are all weird and random and quirky in our own ways. We are all just winging it.  Even the 20-yr old health & fitness coaches who post photos of their six-packs daily, intermittent with green smoothies & meditation tips/slogans. (I should actually probably try meditation. If only I had the patience for it :)

My brain always wants to dwell on the bad stuff way too much so maybe my online life is my attempt to focus on the positive… maybe that’s why I don’t want to write too much about all the &*$£@! that goes down with juggling parenting, working, commuting, living with my mother, dealing with my defective brain…

I will from time to time write about this stuff but I always try (sometimes failing) to focus on the positive and I promise you, I will never ever fake it so much that I Photoshop my Instagram photos.

What do you think? Fake it ’til you make it? OR #keepitreal ? OR – a balance of the two? :) 

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  • Katie G Friday, 25 September 2015 at 15:45

    A few week’s back a friend of mine took a photo of me at a party.
    Then followed up with the 10 minute ‘tutorial’ of how she could wipe off my laughter lines, smooth out my skin/remove blemishes, lengthen my lashes, tweak my eye colour…basically ‘perfect me’.
    I was absolutely horrified.
    Of course, I love a flattering photo, everyone likes to look attractive on instagram right? I am darn honest about when I’m dehydrated/filtered to the max…
    Because I could NOT cope with someone meeting me in real life, only to leave and think ‘she’s so much larger?’ – ‘Why is her skin not perfect?’ & so on…
    Not one of the women in the above article needed retouching, more people should realise that real life is actually very endearing…esp when it’s mixed up with the ‘fake it’ photo’s we all have..

  • Anna @AnnaTheApple Thursday, 24 September 2015 at 13:50

    Instagram accounts that are so bloody perfect are…so bloody boring! I’d rather see some ‘real’ photos and real lives, then sugar-coated perfection. We get enough of that in magazines.